Week Four: Virtue of Allowance


As you begin to experience the joys of truthfulness, understanding, and forgiveness, you find yourself in the state of calmness and tranquility. This state of mind encourages you to trust your true, authentic self (including your intentions and actions) more than ever before. Through this integrity, you also form a stronger bond of trust and honor with everything and everyone around you. With this trust, you learn that once you act in terms of being authentic to yourself and others and participate in understanding and forgiveness, you have done your part. Thereby, whether you believe in a higher power in religious terms or have faith in the goodness of your own actions (i.e., karma), you will be content with the outcome of your interactions. The state of inner belief and contentment is the outward expression of the Virtue of Allowance. Allowance is to admit that you are not the only creator or beneficiary of your life experience and reality, then to acknowledge that other systems in this time and space also participate in shaping your experience and our reality. Through the art of allowance, you, as an individual system, join other individual systems to co-create a collective experience and co-shape a semi-permanent or temporary frame of reality. The practice of allowance generates other possibilities in terms of how you perceive the world around you. In other words, through allowance you can elevate your perception beyond the condition of time and space (described by some as “the law of attraction”).

Consider that sometimes in life you do not have the authority to change the circumstances. You may then have to trust in yourself and/or a higher power and surrender. The truth is that if we expand the timescale of our view on a situation, we often find ourselves looking back after some time to realize what appeared to be troublesome was, in fact, necessary for our own growth or to unlock a timeline of later experience that was dependent on the seemingly negative event occurring exactly as it did.

The trouble is in the mind, for the body is only the house for the mind to dwell in, and we put a value on it according to its worth. Therefore if your mind has been deceived by some invisible enemy into a belief, you have put it into the form of a disease, with or without your knowledge. By my theory or truth, I come in contact with your enemy and restore you to your health and happiness. This I do partly mentally and partly by talking till I correct the wrong impressions and establish the Truth, and the Truth is the cure.

From The Quimby Manuscripts by Phineas Parkhurst Quimby14

Exercise 4D — Allowance

Observation and Action:

This week, engage your mind and heart in the practice of allowance. Each day, give yourself 20 to 40 minutes to sit in meditation with the previous events of your life in mind. Think of all the seemingly negative events that led to positive endings. Contemplate the multitude of entangled circumstances behind a major personal development. Consider a time you narrowly escaped trauma, then recognize the minor inconveniences that diverted your path from danger into safety. Imagine the learning opportunities that stemmed from the traumatic events that did unfold in your life.

Using the same technique, practice allowance throughout your day to generate heart-based trust and faith towards your current life situations that you do not have the power to control.

Duration and Frequency:

Focus on allowance throughout all your interactions over the course of one week.

Record your 20 to 40 minutes of reflection in your Development Log at the end of each day.